There is a time to be silly and a time to be serious. Brace yourself as this is a serious piece of work about life as I know it. Life can either work for you or it can work against you. I will humbly categorize this post under “opinion” as this is exactly what it is: My humble opinion. But I’m usually quite willing to share it freely.
Okay, here goes.
Life is all about priorities and balance. I’ve done life in many different ways and not much of it really worked for me. It’s like baking a cake, if you mess up the recipe or the order of the ingredients, your end result will be one seriously messed-up cake. But if you follow the recipe you get the cake you were intended to get. Which brings me to…
…My Life Recipe
All the areas in your life should lead to the very centre: God. Who we are and what we want to become cannot happen in our own strength.
This actually means your marriage and partner, not your children! Note to all moms: Partner before children.
I’m not self-centred by placing this in spot no.3 – If you as an individual are not happy, fulfilled and growing, you cannot be of any use to your husband, family, friends or the community. Make time to be still and take stock. Note that the slice of the pie is not that big, but the position is important.
Children and immediate family
Work takes up a huge part of our day, but it will only work for us if we have all the previous blocks ticked. If you swap marriage and work, for example, the cake will hit the fan and you won’t wanna be around to clean up the mess.
Friends are important and should be appreciated and valued. We cannot expect our partners to fulfil every single roll in our lives, therefore the pie to bring balance. Both men and women need friends to satisfy that part of them that no-one else can. Women need friends to chat to, shop with, cry with and grow with while men need friends to connect with on a level that women can simply not do: they need someone whom they can fish with, dive with and play with without really talking – that’s their thing. They apparently understand each other this way.
Hobbies, interests, sport and other fun activities contribute to us feeling alive.
- Giving back
We all need to give back in some way.
You still with me? It’s heavy stuff, I know, but it’s almost weekend so you can take it! We might be doing all of the above but in the wrong order, which doesn’t help, really. Can’t mess with the recipe. This is just the way the cookie crumbles.
Life is rather like a tin of sardines – we’re all looking for the key.
- Alan Bennett